diff --git a/backend/app/models/calendar_member.py b/backend/app/models/calendar_member.py
index 56f647f..2f7ad26 100644
--- a/backend/app/models/calendar_member.py
+++ b/backend/app/models/calendar_member.py
@@ -46,8 +46,8 @@ class CalendarMember(Base):
     )
     accepted_at: Mapped[Optional[datetime]] = mapped_column(DateTime, nullable=True)
 
-    calendar: Mapped["Calendar"] = relationship(back_populates="members", lazy="selectin")
-    user: Mapped["User"] = relationship(foreign_keys=[user_id], lazy="selectin")
+    calendar: Mapped["Calendar"] = relationship(back_populates="members", lazy="raise")
+    user: Mapped["User"] = relationship(foreign_keys=[user_id], lazy="raise")
     inviter: Mapped[Optional["User"]] = relationship(
-        foreign_keys=[invited_by], lazy="selectin"
+        foreign_keys=[invited_by], lazy="raise"
     )
diff --git a/backend/app/routers/shared_calendars.py b/backend/app/routers/shared_calendars.py
index f84edb7..b9ed123 100644
--- a/backend/app/routers/shared_calendars.py
+++ b/backend/app/routers/shared_calendars.py
@@ -163,6 +163,16 @@ async def invite_member(
 
     target_user_id = connection.connected_user_id
 
+    # W-03: Verify bidirectional connection still active
+    reverse_conn = await db.execute(
+        select(UserConnection.id).where(
+            UserConnection.user_id == target_user_id,
+            UserConnection.connected_user_id == current_user.id,
+        )
+    )
+    if not reverse_conn.scalar_one_or_none():
+        raise HTTPException(status_code=400, detail="Connection is no longer active")
+
     if target_user_id == calendar.user_id:
         raise HTTPException(status_code=400, detail="Cannot invite the calendar owner")